Happy (or not?) Mother’s Day

I’m thinking today about how blessed I am.  I have a wonderful mom.  She is very kind and loving and helped shape me into the person I am today.  She introduced me to my faith in Christ and has always tried to show me the love of Christ.  I am also blessed with a good mother-in-law; she is very kind and graciously welcomed me into their family.   I have also been blessed with a wonderful son.  Even though being in quarantine with him has given me more gray hair he’s such a wonderful kid and I’m so proud to be his mom.  He’s very smart and empathetic and it’s wonderful to watch him learn and grow.

Because Mother’s Day is a good day for me I sometimes forget it is not a good day for some people.  Many people struggle with miscarriages or infertility.  For people who have lost their mother it can also be very hard.  There are also people who did not grow up with good mothers and might not have happy memories.  I think there was only one Mother’s Day we were trying to get pregnant where we had not gotten pregnant yet.  I remember being sad on that Mother’s Day so I really can’t understand how people who have struggled with infertility feel on this day that is celebrating something they long for so badly. I know it can also be a struggle for moms with blended families. It can be hurtful when step-children don’t acknowledge their step-parents on Mother’s Day or Father’s Day. I have been very blessed to not be in anyone these situations and I’m thankful today for everything God has given me.

If anyone is struggling I just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you and praying for you.  I can’t say I know what you’re going through but I can listen to anyone who needs to talk. I also want to let you know it’s okay to not be okay. I think we often feel in the United States that we’re supposed to be happy all the time and not let people know we’re struggling. I lived like that for a long time and it caused me to have a breakdown. If you are struggling please don’t let it get to that point before you ask for help. There is nothing wrong with feeling depressed.

I also wanted to recognize all the different kinds of mothers there are.  If you are a biological, adoptive, foster or step-mom I want to wish you a Happy Mother’s Day.  In whatever way you became a mother God has blessed you with your children.  And for anyone who is struggling God is here for you, too. 

“She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.” Proverbs 31: 27-31 NIV

“You turned my wailing into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my heart may sing your praises and not be silent. Lord my God, I will praise you forever.” Psalms 30: 11-12 NIV

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Christian. Wife. Mom. I just want to share my journey of motherhood and let struggling moms know they're not alone. I enjoy reading, playing board games, spending time with friends and family, and volunteering in the community.

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