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The other day I was talking to someone and I said, “Sometimes life sucks but it will get better.” For some reason I kept thinking about this simple sentence. A lot of people’s lives probably suck right now. For some people like me you might just be struggling with minor disappointments. For others you could be going through major struggles.
Some of my disappointments are: M.J.’s sleep regression; not be able to see people in person; having to wear a mask in public; rainy days; our anniversary possibly being during quarantine. M.J. has been having trouble sleeping lately; he will wake up in the middle of the night and say he doesn’t want to go back to sleep. A few times I have slept on the floor in his room which is really uncomfortable. I worry about him a little bit because I think he is an extrovert and he hasn’t been able to see any of his friends. He is too young to understand what’s going on but he can obviously tell something is different and I think it makes him sad and scared. Then of course I feel like a jerk for getting frustrated with him in the middle of the night. However; I’m only human and most people probably don’t like waking up in the middle of the night. M.J. and I really miss play dates and interaction with other people. I love my kid but I can only play hit the blocks down 50000000000 times before I get a little bored. I also do not like wearing a mask when I go to the store. Of course I do to protect other people but it makes me feel claustrophobic and I want to get out of the store as soon as possible. There have also been many rainy days that make it difficult to play outside. It is much harder to entertain a toddler all day if we can’t play outside. Our wedding anniversary is May 29th. Even if the quarantine is done by then I don’t know if there will be any restaurants open for us to go out to dinner.
I know some people have bigger struggles right now. You might be out of work; you might not know where your next meal is coming from; your friends or family may be sick; you may be struggling with depression or anxiety from the isolation and uncertainty. If you are struggling with big things like this don’t be afraid to ask for help. Our church and life group has been able to help people out with necessities they were not able to afford. There are so many people who want to help so don’t be afraid or embarrassed to ask. Hang in there, it will get better.
If your disappointments are small like mine it is okay to grieve. You don’t need to feel guilty for being sad that your kids can’t play sports, have birthday parties, or go to school. However; don’t forget about the positive things in your life. My family is very blessed. Dan is still able to go to work, we have had more family time, I’ve become a great muffin-baker, Dan is perfecting his sourdough bread recipe, we are blessed with everything we need.
I know some people may not have as many blessing as us; I want to let you know I’m thinking of you and praying for you. I’m reminded of the song See a Victory by Elevation Worship:
“You take what the enemy meant for evil and You turn it for good.”
There are so many struggling right now but there are so many people who are looking for any chance they have to help someone else. We can certainly find joy in these uncertain times.
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” Matthew 5:4 NIV
“Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.” James 1:27 NIV