I just finished reading the book Confessions of a Domestic Failure by Bunmi Laditan. It was hilarious and I would highly recommend it to any Stay-at-Home Mom. It made me laugh but it also reminded me that motherhood is hard and I’m not the only one who feels that way. Most moms worry about a lot of the things I worry about. It just feels wrong to talk about your struggles as a mother because you don’t want people to think you hate your kids. It is possible to love someone more than you ever have before and still want to take a break from them sometimes. It’s hard to be with any one person all the time. It’s okay to take a break from your kids. It’s okay (and normal) to be overwhelmed when there has not really been an option to take a break from your kids.
“Does anyone else find it entirely unreasonable that a human being should be required to cook AND clean in the same day?”- Confessions of a Domestic Failure
I really like this book because the main character hates cooking and crafts and I can totally relate to that. Whenever I cook I seem to use so many dishes. Then I’m so exhausted and stressed from cooking that I don’t feel like doing the dishes. I found that quote totally relatable. Can’t I just make chicken strips and spray air freshener?
“I wondered if stretching to reach the candy on top of the fridge counted as Pilates?”- Confessions of a Domestic Failure
“I wear absorbent fabrics because they double as a paper towel. If it looks and feels like pajamas sign me up. A fashion designer might call my look Sleepwear Chic or Bedroom Casual.”- Confessions of a Domestic Failure
Hahahahahaha. If that doesn’t describe my style I don’t know what does. I don’t think I even own a pair of jeans anymore. I definitely don’t own a pair of jeans that fit me. Leggings are so comfortable and they’re nice and stretchy so I can wear them no matter what weight I am that month. I wore a dress the other day and M.J. asked me what it was. In case you were wondering how often I dress up.
“Motherhood has a way of making one day feel like two. Or three.”- Confessions of a Domestic Failure
I have definitely been feeling this way lately. Since we’ve been in quarantine I often forget what day it is. M.J. has been waking up at night again and he stopped taking naps so I often feel like a zombie during the day. Although he currently fell asleep on the couch next to me. Hopefully that doesn’t mean he’ll wake up again tonight.
“Moms can’t win with any of you. If we work, we’re neglecting our children. If we stay home we’re wasting our lives. If we don’t breastfeed we’re failures. If we do, we need to do it in the dark, under a blanket, on a different planet so we don’t offend your fragile weak sensitivities! Give a mother a freaking break!”- Confessions of a Domestic Failure
So yeah, a lot of moms feel like this. Our kids are supposed to be perfectly behaved if we go out in public but what normal kid is like that? And if we let them play with a tablet we will also be judged. I exclusively pumped for M.J. and I was very nervous to feed him a bottle in public because I was worried people would judge me. So in case you can’t tell I really liked this book. It talked about struggles so many moms go through and was also very funny.
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