I have been working lately on my self-esteem.  It has definitely improved but I still struggle with low self-esteem some days.  I may have mentioned I’m not very confident about cooking.  I joke that I have a list of things I can cook: chicken strips, buffalo chicken dip, frozen pizza, cookies, and muffins. 

Last night I totally messed up all three frozen pizzas I made.  Two of them were burnt on one side and doughy on the other side.  The one M.J. wanted to eat was completely burnt on the bottom.  I was feeling discouraged that I messed up something so simple.  I told Dan I have to take frozen pizza off my list.  However; M.J. wanted three pieces of the burnt pizza.  I know he was really hungry but it still made me feel good that he even ate the pizza at all.  I was feeling a lot more encouraged after he ate the pizza.  Today, I was just thinking, hey, maybe God worked through M.J. to show me it’s okay to make mistakes sometimes.  Of course, I know it’s okay to make mistakes but I often feel like I make too many.  Especially with cooking.  I’m afraid to cook new things because I don’t want to mess them up.  And when I mess up one of my specialties (frozen pizza) it can be pretty discouraging.

I just want to remind everyone it’s okay if you make mistakes.  Maybe you’re way better at cooking than I am.  Maybe you struggle with something else: Keeping your house clean (also me), having patience with your kids, time management, or anything else you can think of.  Maybe you struggle with cooking like I do.  You don’t have to be a good cook to be a good mom.  You don’t have to be a good cook to fit into the “good wife” stereotype.  This isn’t the 1950s anymore.  I sometimes still feel bad I’m not that great at cooking but Dan likes to cook.  And I hate cooking so it works out pretty well.  Remember all moms make mistakes.  Burning a pizza doesn’t make you a bad mom.  Having a messy house doesn’t make you a bad mom.  Hiding from your kids doesn’t make you a bad mom.  Being late to lots of play dates doesn’t make you a bad mom.  You’re a good mom.

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Christian. Wife. Mom. I just want to share my journey of motherhood and let struggling moms know they're not alone. I enjoy reading, playing board games, spending time with friends and family, and volunteering in the community.

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