I have struggled with low self-esteem from a young age. When I got older I started to think it was selfish to love myself. I am supposed to love everyone else. I want to help everyone. I’m sure if you’ve read my blog or if you know me that you know I still want to love everyone. I still want to help everyone. But I have realized it is important to love myself, too. It is not selfish or conceited. My self-esteem even became self-loathing at some points in my life. It is important to love yourself and practice self-care. It is impossible to take care of others if you do not take care of yourself as well.
Jesus said “love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:39). I’m sure anyone who reads this verse will think, that means God wants me to love people. Since He said “love your neighbor as yourself” He is already assuming people love themselves. I do believe there are people who are prideful and love themselves too much but I know so many people who feel it is selfish to love themselves. I felt like this for a very long time. One reason I waited so long to find a therapist was because I didn’t want to be selfish. But now that I am taking anti-depressants and going to therapy I feel like I am a much more capable wife and mother. If I hadn’t gotten help when I was suicidal I don’t think Dan and M.J. would be very happy right now. I do believe it is so important to love others but it is also important to love ourselves. I try to remember to see myself the way God sees me.
“I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love.”- John 15:9 NLT