The other day I saw a sign that said Haslett Community Church was having a food drive.  I thought, Oh, I have to buy food for that and donate it.  I pretty much only go to the Haslett area to go grocery shopping but I was thinking I need to make a special trip there to donate food.  I have to help everyone in need.  I have to remind myself this is not possible.  Whenever I see any fundraiser to donate money to I think I should donate to it.  This is impossible.  We don’t have that much money.  Maybe this is why Dan does all the budgeting.

When I see new volunteer opportunities I feel like I have to do all of them.  This is not possible.  I like volunteering but I will get burnt out if I try to do every volunteer opportunity I see.  And I obviously need to have time to spend with my family.  Oh, I guess I should make time for myself, too.  That is something I am getting better at but I probably still need to work on.  I don’t want to be selfish.  I have to remind myself self-care is not selfish.  It is not possible to help everyone and that sometimes makes me sad.  I love helping people.  I don’t want anyone to be in need.  I need to remember I’m not the only person who is called to help people.  There are so many people who are able to help people in need.  I can’t expect myself to help everyone.

It is very hard.  When I see anyone struggling I want to make them feel better.  I have to remember to take care of myself, too.  If I don’t take care of myself I won’t be completely available to take care of other people.  The other day at Aldi, a woman asked me for my cart and she gave me a quarter.  I was going to tell her I didn’t need the quarter but then I realized I might not have one the next time I went to Aldi.  I’m too anxious to ask someone for a cart so I would just have to carry whatever I got in my hands.  I know this is silly but I felt like this was a small part of self-care.  If she didn’t have a quarter I would have given her my cart anyway but she was offering a quarter so it made complete sense to take it.

It is good to help people.  I love helping people.  But I need to remember it is not possible for me to help everyone.  God has called other people to help people in need, too.  I don’t need to be discouraged because I am unable to help everyone.

 “Then Jesus said, ‘Let’s go off by ourselves to a quiet place and rest awhile.’  He said this because there were so many people coming and going that Jesus and his apostles didn’t even have time to eat.”- Mark 6:31 NLT

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Christian. Wife. Mom. I just want to share my journey of motherhood and let struggling moms know they're not alone. I enjoy reading, playing board games, spending time with friends and family, and volunteering in the community.

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