The other day Dan had me listen to a song that he really liked. He thought I would like it, too. He was right.
“And in the naked light I saw, ten thousand people, maybe more. People talking without speaking. People hearing without listening. People writing songs that voices never share and no one dared disturb the sound of silence.”- Sound of Silence by Disturbed (originally by Simon and Garfunkel)
We both thought this part of the song describes so many people today. On social media. Off social media. So many people talk without really saying anything. And so many people “listen” to someone when they’re talking but they don’t really listen. Of course, I know I have been guilty of this. Someone will be talking and I will think of something I want to say. I don’t want to forget it so I just keep thinking about it but then I realize I stopped paying attention to the person talking to me. I think this is a common thing people do, especially today. Maybe because people are used to having time to think about a response before they text someone or comment on their Facebook post. Although, it does seem like quite a few people don’t think before they posts things on social media.
It seems like so many people try to “convert” people on social media. I have a great tip: if you want someone to change their views, be nice to them. Don’t tell someone they are stupid because they disagree with you. This might be a shock to some people but insulting people will not make them change their mind. I also think so many people think they need to attack someone who doesn’t agree with them on everything. Or think they can’t be friends with people they disagree with. There probably isn’t one person you will agree on every single thing with. Dan and I don’t agree on everything and we’re married. Yes, I think, relationships probably work better if you have similar views on things but no one has the same views about everything.
Dan and I are both Christians. When we started dating neither of us were very strong in our faith so we didn’t really talk about it that much. I grew up in a Baptist church. No speaking in tongues, no healing, no visions, or anything like that. Dan was raised with a more charismatic upbringing: speaking in tongues, healing, visions. I remember Dan said to me one time, “Maybe God gave you a vision.” And I said, “You think God gives people visions still?” There were other things we talked about and I was like “Oh no, we should have talked about this before we got married.” Although, I am pretty sure I now believe God still gives people visions. I don’t believe everyone who says they’ve had a vision from God because some people have used this to justify doing terrible things because “God told them to.” Dan and I both love the church we go to now. It is nondenominational and has people from many different backgrounds. One of their things is majoring on the majors and minoring on the minors. I don’t remember all of the majors but the main one is Jesus is God’s son and He died on the cross and rose again for our sins. Dan and I both believe this and he reminds me that’s all that matters.
I think it is important to listen to people we disagree with. I know it can be emotional but if you listen to someone you might actually start to understand their side. Even if you continue to disagree with them you can learn to be more empathetic. If you want to have a debate with someone both people have to be reasonable and respectful. If you’re not you’re just yelling what you think at each other and that won’t solve anything. This could be why debates and arguments stress me out. It stresses me out when I’m not even a part of the argument. I hate conflict. I want everyone to always get along. I know this is not possible but I wish people would try harder to be nice to each other. I wish people would think about what they’re saying before they speak (or type). I think it is so important to be a light in the dark world. I want to do my best to share God’s love with others.
“The first to speak in court sounds right- until the cross-examination begins.” Proverbs 18:17 NLT