The other day M.J. and I watched Mickey’s Once Upon a Christmas and Mickey’s Twice Upon a Christmas. Both of these had an episode with Goofy and his son, Max. Watching these reminded me we don’t need to be perfect to be good parents. If you’ve watched anything with Goofy, you know he is clumsy and accident-prone. However; he cares so much for his son. It is obvious he loves him very much. He plays with him and wants him to be happy. You don’t need to be perfect to be a good parent.
Actually, it is impossible to be perfect. If you aim for perfection you will be disappointed when you make mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. Every parent makes mistakes. Remember to have grace with yourself. Also, remember, you don’t need to compare yourself to other parents. That mom has so much patience, why can’t I be like that? That mom does wonderful crafts with her kids, why can’t I do that? That mom cooks dinner every night, why can’t I do that?
Are you a good mom if you cook dinner every night? Yes.
Are you a good mom if you don’t cook dinner every night? Yes.
Are you a good mom if you let your kids watch TV? Yes.
Are you a good mom if you don’t let your kids watch TV? Yes. (Also, how do you stay sane?)
Are you a good mom if you find it difficult to parent during a pandemic? Yes.
There is no such thing as a perfect parent. There is no such thing as a perfect mom. Parenting is hard. Parenting during a pandemic is even harder. How do I balance keeping my child safe from Covid and doing what’s best for his mental health? He needs social interaction. He craves social interaction. It is hard to know what the right thing to do is. It’s okay to be stressed out. It’s normal to feel like you have no idea how to parent. I used to think I was the only mom who felt this way. I’m not. Most moms have doubts. Their doubts may not be the same as yours, but they have them. I sometimes feel bad that I am not good at crafts. So many moms are great at doing crafts with their kids. I’m not one of them. That’s okay. I have other strengths. I love reading with my son. All parents are different. Just because you parent differently than someone else doesn’t mean you are parenting wrong. Your kids need love; show them how much you love them every day. No one is perfect. You’re a good mom.
“Do your best! Your best is the best for you!”- Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood