Who am I to Judge?

I have been reading the book, No More Perfect Moms by Jill Savage because (big surprise) I wasn’t feeling like a good mom.  In chapter two she talks about how we compare ourselves to other moms.  “I wish I could be like her.”  “I’m glad I’m not like her.”  I started to feel a little convicted reading this part.  I knew I would watch other moms and wish I could parent like they were but I didn’t realize I was judging moms who I felt I was “better than” in some areas.  I often judge my own parenting which can cause me to judge other moms.  Of course, mostly only in my head.   

“I can’t believe she lets her kids have that much sugar.”

“I can’t believe she doesn’t let her kids have any sugar.”

“I can’t believe she disciplined her kid for that.”

“I can’t believe she didn’t discipline her kid for that.”

“I’m glad my kids aren’t as crazy as hers.”

“I can’t believe she didn’t even try to breastfeed.”

“I can’t believe her kids go to bed that late.”

I know a lot of us have had similar thoughts.  No wondering being a mom is so hard in this day and age.  There is so much comparing on social media which causes us to compare more in real life as well.  Moms should empower other moms.  I need to stop judging myself and be encouraging to other moms.  You might not agree with someone else’s parenting decisions but judging them helps no one.  I want to challenge you today to encourage and empower other moms.  It’s something I’m going to make a conscious effort to start doing.

Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.  1st Thessalonians 5:11 NIV

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  1. This “judging” thing has been around probably forever, both the giving and the getting. In the attempt to do mothering well I feel that women look for too much affirmation. I encourage walking confidently in the choices made and encouraging others in theirs, same or different. This allows taking in new ideas that work for you and leaving others behind that don’t. I see you doing just that. ❤️

    1. Thank you so much! I am trying but I definitely look for too much affirmation as well.

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